3 mistakes I've made when initiating change in my organization.

Mistakes. I have made a lot of them. Here are three mistakes that I have made at times when trying to initiate change or launch a new initiative in my church.

1.  Did not spend enough time in prayer.

I see where we are. I see where we need to go. I pray about it. I look up scriptures. I talk to mentors and leaders on my team, but I don’t really sit on it and ask God. I don’t really call out to God in prayer, looking for where He is moving, waiting to see what He wants me to do. I just do my thing and go!

2.    Cast Vision publicly, but not take enough time to build a team a coalition around it. 

This is where we are. This is what we need to do. I cast the vision behind the scenes. My leaders and several other people jump on board. I make the announcement, and let’s role. That is fine for small things but for big changes, like adding services, expanding campuses, or small group initiatives, I have found that I need to build a team and coalition around the vision for it to really take root and grow.

Its not good enough for people to try and walk out my vision. No! it has to be their vision. It has to be in their heart and that takes time.

  • cast vision

  • let them ask questions

  • pray about it themselves

  • ask more questions

  • take ownership of it

In those times where I know what needs to be done, cast vision, then act on it, the vision never really takes all the way. It stumbles along or falls completely and I have to come back in and fix it or quit it entirely. Both of those are losses. However, the times I've prayed on it, met about it with people, got leaders around the vision, and took the time to ask and answer questions. Ownership is released. The vision sticks. The excitement spreads and the initiative is reached.  

3.  Not having the right person lead the charge. 

There have been times where I delegated the vision and implementation of change off to a subordinate too quickly. They did not have the leadership equity to lead this through to a win. Training up the right person and releasing them to lead is always worth the time.

Hopefully I’ve learned from my mistakes. When looking to make a change of any sort, here are the three things I make sure to do:

1 - Spend a season in individual and group prayer seeking for Gods will … not just our plan. 

2 - Cast vision and build a coalition of like minded leaders that own the vision themselves. 

3 - Think through who is the best person to lead the charge. 

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Questions of manhood?

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Genesis 3:1-7

Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths

One of the things in this passage that I find very interesting is that the serpent spoke up and gave his opinion, Eve spoke up and gave her thoughts, however,  Adam remained completely silent during the entire event.  What if Adam, who God had originally spoken to about what would happen if they ate of the tree, had spoken up? What if Adam would have been a leader instead of an observer. 

I guess I could talk about the state of men today and how common place it is for men to sit back, put their head down, and let life happen to them and their family rather then stand up and and protect their family. However, I think it would be best for me to look in the mirror and ask myself a few question first before pointing fingers at others? 

While the Bible clearly affirms the equality of men and women (Galatians 3:28), it also tells us plainly that God has assigned the responsibility of spiritual leadership in the home to husbands: "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them" (Colossians 3:18-19).

As the “Christ Like Servant Leader” of the home, what kinds of qualities are required in a man, who desires to fulfill this high and holy calling? Here are four:

1 - A man must have strong connection with his heavenly father, finding his happiness first and foremost in Christ. 


2 - A man must be balanced in his commitments and nurturing in his concern for the mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing of his wife and family. 


3 - A man must be proactive rather than reactive, spotting potential challenges to his family and come up with workable solutions to the problem. 


4 - A man must have integrity at all times, seeking to be the safest, wisest, and most respected man his wife and children know. 

These four qualities drive me to ask myself a few things:

Do I lead my family spiritually as effetely as I could?

Do I stay in tune with God so that I can see physical, financial, and family battles as they are coming? Or do I get so caught up  in the day to day routine that I let life hit me and simply role with the punches like Adam did? 

Do I take the lead when battles come or do I let my wife carry all the weight of figuring out what to do and which direction we should go?

What am I doing to serve, love, protect, and support my wife in her daily life as a woman and mother?

What am I doing to serve, love, protect, and lead my children? Am I involved or simply observing?

Have I led with enough integrity that when I do speak up my wife, and children know I have their best interest in mind. 

I don’t think that being a Godly man is a destination that we arrive at. I feel it is more of a road that we choose to walk. These are a few questions I am and have been asking myself on my journey. I think it would do you and your family some good if you did the same.

Get your "BUT" out of my face.

Let’s face it, no matter how valid, how wordy, how thought through, or how well explained - at the end of the day our excuse do not change anything. Excuses never help the situation we are in. Excuses, never get us any closer tot he goal we want to attain. 

Well I would call my son … but …

I was going to start working out … but …

I thought about making that cold call … but …..

I was going to start serving at the church … but …

I would but … I could but … I should but … listen get your “but”out of my face! 

Because your but stinks!  Yep you heard me right. Your but stinks. We all know that a” but” stinks! 

Excuses stink! Because excuses even tho valid …. never change anything.

Your excuse, my excuse, will never make a dream come true.

Two excuses we have to stop making:

1 - I can’t do that 

I decided long ago to thru the words “I Can’t”  out of my vocabulary. Life is too short. I’ve made up in my mind that I am not going to waste another day of my life worrying about what I think I can’t do instead I’m going to focus on what I can do. And the good news, the truth of the matter is, you and I can do anything we set our mind to!

When you look at  history, some very average people have accomplished the most audacious and incredible things, and we sit back and say … “I can’t”.

I can’t pay my bills.

I can’t save my marriage.

I can’t get ahead in life.

I can’t reach more people in my ministry.

I can’t get people to volunteer on my team

That is a lie. I know thats a lie because, I have seen other people do all of those things and more!

Let me ask you a question. What is so special about them? Why now you?
Someone is going to be happily married …. it might as well be you!

Someone is going to make that sale … it might as well be you!

Someone is going to turn that idea into a profit … it might as well be you!

Someone is going to shine a bright light for Christ … it might as well be you!

It might as well be you, and iit can be. If you stop saying, “I can’t” and just try!

2 - I will but right now is not a good time. 

I’m going to start working out …. but this week is pretty busy.

I know I need to start spending more time with my kids. I need to. I want to. i will, but today I am just tied up.

I really feel like I could make a difference … but I’m so busy I just can’t start serving at the church right now.

There is a really interesting verse in the bible concerning this statement of “I will … but right now is not a good time”

Proverbs 20:4 The sluggard will not plow by reason of the cold; therefore shall he beg in harvest, and have nothing.

The lazy person knows the field needs plowed, they have every intention of playing the field but today …. it’s pretty cold, and then tomorrow is too hot and the next day well they are just too busy.  One excuse leads to another and another - and then at harvest time because they haven’t done the work necessary to produce the harvest …. they don’t have enough food … and they have to beg for help. 

The Bible says that when we know that there is something we are supposed to do and we say, “I’m going to but know is not a good time” because we do not do the work necessary to produce the harvest we wanted …. we will end up not having enough. We won’t have enough money. We won’t have enough patience. We won’t have enough love. We won’t enough support. 

Not because life is tough. No, we don’t have enough of what we need, because we never did the work necessary to produce the result we wanted. 

I will, but right now is not a good time, will keep you and I from being who you suppose to be 

This is not the way to live life. You are not lazy. So stop making excuses and start doing the thing you know you are suppose to do be doing. Take your spouse out on a date. Spend more time with your kids. Start reading the bible every day. There is never going to be a good time for you to start doing any of those things. The “good time” comes after you start doing them.

So lead your self. Stop making excuses and do what you know you are suppose to do. 


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This statement is so true!

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Change the way you look at problems. "God uses problems to perfect us" (Blog 4 of 4)

When we start to see that we are not perfect ….we begin to lean in on the one who is perfect. 

We start to see that we are actually not as strong as we thought we were and maybe we need someone who is stronger than us. When we derive our power from the one that is all powerful, we become unstoppable. 

No matter what you are facing you can make it. You can do it. Not because of who you are, but because of who He is. Not because of what you do, but because of what he has already done. 

You are complete in Him. 

So what? Problems inspect - correct - perfect us 

That is all well and good, but I am in the middle of a big time problem right now.
I don’t have a car, money is tight, my friend betrayed me, my spouse left me. I thought I had these things from my past under control, but now they are back bigger and stronger than ever.

Your points are nice and they all rhyme - but I need to know … what do I do? 

James 1:5-8 says, If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.  Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.

Scripture says that when you are going through a situation and you don't know what to do, ask God what you should do. Now, I’ve got to say, I am not sure what God would have you do in every trial or problem that you face, but here are four things that I have no doubt are wise decisions in tough times. 

Number one - RELAX

Several years ago, I was really into working out. At least three times a week I would go downstairs to my gym and hit the weights. Time after time I would get on the bench and rep after rep I would push and strain until the bar would not move anymore. In those moments of pain and struggle, I have never been more calm. You see I had a spotter. In those moments that I was giving it all I had but it just wasn't enough - I knew he was there - watching me - letting me push - letting me grow - then if I couldn't take it - he would lift the weight for me - until the next rep. 

James 1:1-4 states, My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

When going thru those times that are so tough they even test your faith in God - in the struggle - in the push - you can relax - you can have joy in your heart because Gods got it. Like a good coach, like  good spotter - he is just letting you feel the burn a little - he is just letting you get stronger - but he is never going to leave you. 

So the first thing to do in those tough times is simply … relax. 

Number two - BE PATIENT

One of the biggest mistakes we make when tough times come is think that “I have to do something”. Far too often in our haste to fix the problem we act too quickly and cause bigger problems. What do you do in tough times? Be patient. Don’t act so quickly. Don’t speak all at once. When you do you will normally regret it and only make things worse. 

This is too hard … let’s move. 

This isn’t working … lets get a divorce. 

I can’t take this anymore … I’m getting something to drink. 

No … the Psalmist David who knew a little bit about problems says in Psalms 37:7 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.

It is so important for us to be patient and not react to the problem too quickly. 

Number three - DON’T GO IT ALONE

When tough times come, seek the council of Godly people around you. 

Proverbs 11:14 says, For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.

If we were to say that in todays vernacular, we might say it this way … 

For lack of guidance - people buy cars they cant really afford - and will cause $ problems

Because of lack of guidance - people leave their spouse when they should have stayed

Because of lack of good advice - people give up when time get confusing 

But better decisions are made - when they don't go it alone but get good advice. 

Who is it in your life that has proven they have some things figured out? Set up a meeting with them and let them pour into you over a good cup of coffee. Read a book from an author that has overcome your situation. Listen to a podcast from a leader you respect. There are a lot of ways to get Godly counsel, but whatever you do, don't got it alone. 

Number four - STAY ON THE PATH

About four years ago a family friend let us spend a few days in their cabin up at Shaver Lake, a quaint little town in the Sequia Mountains, here in California. While up in the mountains we decided to go on a hike. It was early evening and we thought it would be so good to hike up the mountain and watch the sunset from a really cool cliff area that we had heard about. 

We started up the hill and wall was well, except for we did not make it to the cliff before the sunset. To make matters worse, we were about three miles up the hill, it’s pitch black and I did not bring a flash light. I know, I don't know what I was thinking either, but I didn’t bring one. 

We did not have flash light but we did have a couple of cell phones. So all the way down the hill we had our cell phone light shining just a few steps in front of us. All the way down, all we could see was just a few steps in front of us. We had just enough light to stay on the path. So that is exactly what we did. We stayed on the path. 

Psalms 119:105 records, Your word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path. 

We may know this but lets read on in this passage 

When tough times come - not want to be here - depressed - confused - no I will walk this out

Psalms 119:105-112

Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.  I have taken an oath and confirmed it, that I will follow your righteous laws. I have suffered much; preserve my life, Lord, according to your word.  Accept, Lord, the willing praise of my mouth, and teach me your laws.  Though I constantly take my life in my hands, I will not forget your law. The wicked have set a snare for me, but I have not strayed from your precepts. Your statutes are my heritage forever; they are the joy of my heart. My heart is set on keeping your decrees to the very end.


Did you hear that? You word is lighting my path. I am going through a tough time, I am suffering much, but I have not strayed from the way you want me to walk. My heart is set on you and I will keep walking with you to the very end. 

When you go through those dark times of life, choose to have a “stay on the path” mentality. 

No matter what … I am not quitting No matter what … I am not going back. No matter what … I am staying on the path. 


Reality is, life is not perfect. We have problems. The question is not will you have problems, the question is how will you see them. Remember the words of James 1:2-4 - Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.