Partnering with families.

Here are three things we are offering to help answer questions and inspire change in your family. If you are a parent that lives in the Tulare County area, please check out the content and join us on a Sunday. If you are a Church leader, please check out, share, and take any of these ideas, using them to help the families of your area.

1 - The Dip Teaching Series


From time to time our children are going to struggle. During our Sunday gatherings in the month of September we are diving into Gods word to help empower you to walk through the dip.

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2 - ECHO Student Ministry


Every Wednesday at 7pm teenagers gather at the church for worship, message, small groups, and fun activities. This month we are helping your teenager see that God has placed you as a parent in their life to help them become what God has called them to be.

3 - Free Resource


With every weekend teaching series we produce a free resource. This month our free resource is titled - What do I do when my child is smoking weed? Click the link below to watch, listen, and share.

Bigger isn't better. Better is better.

Note - this blog is a chapter taken from my ebook, “9 truths that will scale your life and leadership” CLICK HERE to download your copy.

Bigger isn't better. Better is better.

There was once a Junior High boy. He was 13 years old. When he was twelve he was five feet tall but one summer he hit a growth spurt like none other. This young man grew from five feet to six feet in less than one year. As you can imagine the basketball coach was looking forward to him being on the basketball team. I mean how many times do you get to coach a six foot tall young man in Junior High? 

This young man went out for basketball. He was really tall, in fact he towered over everyone else on the team. However, there was a problem. He had grown really tall really fast, but he was not good at playing basketball. He could not shoot the ball. He could not dribble very well. He was really slow and actually very clumsy. 

The young man was bigger than everyone else, but he was not better than anyone else. In fact,  the players that were seven and eight inches shorter than him had skillsets that were much more skilled at the sport. He had not grown into his body yet. The young man sat on the bench most of the year and did not get to play that often. 

Leading is just like this basketball player. Bigger is not better. Better is better! 

God is not nearly as concerned about the size of what you lead, as he is about your love of obedience to Him.

In the book of Acts we see that Philip was experiencing a huge revival in the city area of Samaria. Here is the beginning of the story found in Acts 8:4-8,

“Now those who were scattered went about preaching the word. Philip went down to the city[a] of Samaria and proclaimed to them the Christ. And the crowds with one accord paid attention to what was being said by Philip when they heard him and saw the signs that he did. For unclean spirits, crying out with a loud voice, came out of many who had them, and many who were paralyzed or lame were healed. So there was much joy in that city”

Philip has a ministry that was growing larger and larger everyday. People were being healed and coming to Christ. However, in the middle of this expansive growth of the kingdom and Church is where we pick up the story found in Acts 8:25-39. 

Now an angel of the Lord said to Philip, “Rise and go toward the South to the road that goes down from Jerusalem to Gaza.” This is a desert place. And he rose and went. And there was an Ethiopian, a eunuch, a court official of Candace, queen of the Ethiopians, who was in charge of all her treasure. He had come to Jerusalem to worship and was returning, seated in his chariot, and he was reading the prophet Isaiah. And the Spirit said to Philip, “Go over and join this chariot.” So Philip ran to him and heard him reading Isaiah the prophet and asked, “Do you understand what you are reading?” And he said, “How can I, unless someone guides me?” And he invited Philip to come up and sit with him. Now the passage of the Scripture that he was reading was this:“Like a sheep he was led to the slaughter and like a lamb before its shearer is silent, so he opens not his mouth.In his humiliation justice was denied him. Who can describe his generation? For his life is taken away from the earth.” 

And the eunuch said to Philip, “About whom, I ask you, does the prophet say this, about himself or about someone else?” Then Philip opened his mouth, and beginning with this Scripture he told him the good news about Jesus. And as they were going along the road they came to some water, and the eunuch said, “See, here is water! What prevents me from being baptized?” And he commanded the chariot to stop, and they both went down into the water, Philip and the eunuch, and he baptized him. And when they came up out of the water, the Spirit of the Lord carried Philip away, and the eunuch saw him no more, and went on his way rejoicing.

Philip was experiencing an incredible revival. Numerical and spiritual growth was happening all around him. In the middle of a season of growth, God asked Philip to leave the crowd and go minister to one person in the middle of nowhere.

To God, bigger is not better. Obedience is what He is after. 

Here are a four signs you are more concerned with getting bigger rather then better:

1 - The first thing you check at the end of every event or gathering are your numbers. 

2 - You pad your numbers. Rounding up so that the report looks a little better. 

3 - When numbers are up, you feel like you’re succeeding.

     When numbers are down you feel like a failure. 

4 - You’ve taken photos of your service, meeting, or product with just the right angle to make it 

      look much fuller, bigger, or better than they actual are. 

Jesus said to go and make disciples out of the nations, not do whatever you have to do to fill up the chairs in your room. For those reading this book that are leading a ministry, having a full room is awesome, but the God goal is full hearts, not full chairs.

When you are developing your game plan and defining your definition of success, don’t fall for the trap of trying to get bigger, simply work on getting better, and bigger will take care of itself. 

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Cultivate a culture of questions.


One of the fears that many leaders have is the fear of being a micro-manager. 

We don’t want to be the type of leader that doesn't release our people to do what they do. Not wanting to micromanage is a good thing, however, many times out of our fear of not wanting to micro-manage we often stop doing something that our team and organization needs us to do in order to succeed and that is, “ask questions”.. 

I want to make this very clear because this is so important.

Asking questions is not micromanagement. Asking questions is good stewardship. 

Asking questions is not micromanaging. Asking questions is leading. 

If you and I want to lead our team well, we must cultivate a culture where asking questions is not only accepted, but it is expected. 

How are you doing?

Do you have what you need?

Can you tell me why you did this, that way?

What are three areas your department is weak right now?

What are two things you are doing to develop yourself?

We ask because we care. We care about our team members. We care about our mission. We care enough to ask. Questions are not a bad thing. Questions are a good thing.

Here are three tips:

One - One of the best ways to cultivate a culture of asking questions is to allow and encourage your team to ask you questions. Having an open door policy is good, but people are generally afraid to walk through the door of asking questions of supervisors unless you open the door for them

Two - When you are on boarding new team members, let them know you will ask questions and you want them to ask questions. 

Three - End meetings with you opening the door for them to dig deeper and ask you questions. Ask your team, “What questions to you have for me?” “Is there any confusion on what we are doing?” “In what ways can I serve you and your department better?”

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3 mistakes I've made when initiating change in my organization.

Mistakes. I have made a lot of them. Here are three mistakes that I have made at times when trying to initiate change or launch a new initiative in my church.

1.  Did not spend enough time in prayer.

I see where we are. I see where we need to go. I pray about it. I look up scriptures. I talk to mentors and leaders on my team, but I don’t really sit on it and ask God. I don’t really call out to God in prayer, looking for where He is moving, waiting to see what He wants me to do. I just do my thing and go!

2.    Cast Vision publicly, but not take enough time to build a team a coalition around it. 

This is where we are. This is what we need to do. I cast the vision behind the scenes. My leaders and several other people jump on board. I make the announcement, and let’s role. That is fine for small things but for big changes, like adding services, expanding campuses, or small group initiatives, I have found that I need to build a team and coalition around the vision for it to really take root and grow.

Its not good enough for people to try and walk out my vision. No! it has to be their vision. It has to be in their heart and that takes time.

  • cast vision

  • let them ask questions

  • pray about it themselves

  • ask more questions

  • take ownership of it

In those times where I know what needs to be done, cast vision, then act on it, the vision never really takes all the way. It stumbles along or falls completely and I have to come back in and fix it or quit it entirely. Both of those are losses. However, the times I've prayed on it, met about it with people, got leaders around the vision, and took the time to ask and answer questions. Ownership is released. The vision sticks. The excitement spreads and the initiative is reached.  

3.  Not having the right person lead the charge. 

There have been times where I delegated the vision and implementation of change off to a subordinate too quickly. They did not have the leadership equity to lead this through to a win. Training up the right person and releasing them to lead is always worth the time.

Hopefully I’ve learned from my mistakes. When looking to make a change of any sort, here are the three things I make sure to do:

1 - Spend a season in individual and group prayer seeking for Gods will … not just our plan. 

2 - Cast vision and build a coalition of like minded leaders that own the vision themselves. 

3 - Think through who is the best person to lead the charge. 

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Questions of manhood?


Genesis 3:1-7

Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”  So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths

One of the things in this passage that I find very interesting is that the serpent spoke up and gave his opinion, Eve spoke up and gave her thoughts, however,  Adam remained completely silent during the entire event.  What if Adam, who God had originally spoken to about what would happen if they ate of the tree, had spoken up? What if Adam would have been a leader instead of an observer. 

I guess I could talk about the state of men today and how common place it is for men to sit back, put their head down, and let life happen to them and their family rather then stand up and and protect their family. However, I think it would be best for me to look in the mirror and ask myself a few question first before pointing fingers at others? 

While the Bible clearly affirms the equality of men and women (Galatians 3:28), it also tells us plainly that God has assigned the responsibility of spiritual leadership in the home to husbands: "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them" (Colossians 3:18-19).

As the “Christ Like Servant Leader” of the home, what kinds of qualities are required in a man, who desires to fulfill this high and holy calling? Here are four:

1 - A man must have strong connection with his heavenly father, finding his happiness first and foremost in Christ. 

2 - A man must be balanced in his commitments and nurturing in his concern for the mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing of his wife and family. 

3 - A man must be proactive rather than reactive, spotting potential challenges to his family and come up with workable solutions to the problem. 

4 - A man must have integrity at all times, seeking to be the safest, wisest, and most respected man his wife and children know. 

These four qualities drive me to ask myself a few things:

Do I lead my family spiritually as effetely as I could?

Do I stay in tune with God so that I can see physical, financial, and family battles as they are coming? Or do I get so caught up  in the day to day routine that I let life hit me and simply role with the punches like Adam did? 

Do I take the lead when battles come or do I let my wife carry all the weight of figuring out what to do and which direction we should go?

What am I doing to serve, love, protect, and support my wife in her daily life as a woman and mother?

What am I doing to serve, love, protect, and lead my children? Am I involved or simply observing?

Have I led with enough integrity that when I do speak up my wife, and children know I have their best interest in mind. 

I don’t think that being a Godly man is a destination that we arrive at. I feel it is more of a road that we choose to walk. These are a few questions I am and have been asking myself on my journey. I think it would do you and your family some good if you did the same.