You are not Gods gift to what you lead. What you lead is Gods gift to you.


Have you ever met someone that was an absolute tool? Sure you have. We all have. One thing that the “tools” of this world have in common is pride. Prideful people think the whole world was made for them and revolves around them. Prideful people may be successful for a season but in the long run they will fall. 

Mathew 23:12 records, “Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted”. Jesus said that whoever exalts or lifts himself up will be humbled. (Meaning, they will be put back down to a lowly position.) However, whoever starts at a lowly position and is humble will be exalted. (Meaning God will promote them and lift them up.) 

Look at the words written in 1 Peter 5:5. “Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the el- ders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. I remember reading this passage years ago and thinking to my- self, “If there is one person in the world that I don’t want opposing or working against me, it is God”. 

Ok, lets be completely honest here. Many people (especially leaders) in America struggle with pride. Because we have had some measure of success in one or two areas of life and leadership, we can be easily be duped into thinking that we, in and of ourselves, have something really good to offer. That we have something really good to say. That we are God’s gift to what ever it is we are leading. That is not only the furthest thing from the truth, that is the very thing that will cause us to fall in some way and not be successful in the long run. 

If we are prideful, we may succeed for a little while. Our ministry may grow. We may attract some leaders. Our organization may scale. We may get some hits on our blog, or gain twitter followers. However, and make no mistake about it if we lift ourselves up in our own eyes or in the eyes of others, God will make sure to pull us back down. Our leadership will not last. 

Unfortunately, I could give you names of at least twenty-five leaders that I’ve known personally who lost their position in ministry, simply because they fell prey to the power of pride. Please hear me. You need to understand this. “You are not God’s gift to what you lead. What you lead, is Gods gift to you”. God has given you the abilities that you have. God has given you the bud- get that you receive. 

God has given you the extreme honor to stand and proclaim his word, lead your company, or be the head of your family. These are not things that you offer. These are not things that you’ve earned. These are gifts. They are opportunities that God himself has offered to you. 

I want to encourage you to do five things:

1 - Stay Humble.

2 - Be willing to start and stay in a lowly position.

3 - Be a servant to your leader and those in authority over you.

4 - Be a servant to your co-workers.

5 - Be a servant to the people that you lead. 

Those moments that you and I are serving, are the moments you we the most like our master. Philippians 2:5-11 says, “Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father”. 

Everyday God gives you an amazing gift.
Everyday God gives you the opportunity to be like Jesus. Everyday God gives you the opportunity to serve. 

So don’t be a tool. Don’t take credit for what God has given you. Be like Jesus. Look for every opportunity to serve. You might be surprised what happens when you do. Humility is a characteristic that will propel you past previous plateaus. 

Remember, you are not Gods gift to what you lead. What you lead is Gods gift to you.

Five tips for leading from the second chair.


For 23 years I had the honor of sitting in a second chair position, while serving as a youth pastor for small and large churches. The things I experienced through the successes and failures of that journey taught me so much.

Today, I did a training session with one of the youth pastors that I coach in my one year coaching program. During our one hour conversation, we unpacked several things that I learned - mostly from mistakes - in hopes that he would be even more effective at serving his church body from the chair he currently occupies.

As a second chair leader, you are so valuable to your church. I thought I would post a few of these tips in bullet point form on my blog, for you to read and hopefully apply. These are just short snippets, if you would like to get in depth training CLICK HERE to find out more about our personalized coaching program.

Here are five tips for leading from the second chair in any organization.

1 - Be great at what you do. 
As a second chair leader, lead your area with such vision and precision that your leader does not have to worry about your department. Not having to be concerned with what you are over, will free your leader up to look at other areas that need their attention. 

2 - Communicate clearly to your leader. 
Your leader needs to know, where are you taking your team, and what problem are you currently solving. Communicate clearly these five questions to your leadership.

What are we doing?

Why are we doing it?

What is going to be the positive result because of this action?

Where are we struggling?

What is our game-plan to remedy to the problem?

Clearly communicate your direction with your leader, then be prepared to take the conversation deeper if they would like to.

3 - Be flexible. 
You are on the team to serve the vision, mission, and values of your organization. Be willing to bend and change if it will help the team accomplish its goals. 

4 - Don't be a "yes man". 
You are on the team to make the team better. So make it better. If you agree with a direction then let your leader know, if you do not agree, then let them know why. Don't just say what you think your leader wants to hear, say what your leader needs to hear. 

5. Take responsibility for your mistakes. 
We all make mistakes. When you make a mistake or your department underachieves, take responsibility. This builds trust and open communication between you and your leader. 

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How do you know they are ready for promotion?

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Ok, you have a position that needs to be filled in your ministry or organization. You have a handful of people on your team that you could promote to lead the charge in this much needed department, So how do you know who is ready for promotion?

Well there are a lot of variables to look at, however, I think you need to at bare minimum have a leadership filter that you run everyone through to help you know if they are ready to step up and lead.

Here are four attributes that must be found in someone before you promote them.

Here attributes that have cannot be found in someone that you are considering promoting. someone. 
Poorly Tuned Ears 
Lack of Caring

DID YOU NOTICE … skillset is not one of the filters. I know that skillset is important, however, I have found through the years that if someone has the skillset to accomplish task but lacks positive the characteristics, their level of skill is not powerful enough to overcome their lack of character.

When looking to promote, take character over talent, every time.

Sure hope this helps.

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Five things you can't have on your team.

As leaders, our strength is not found in our facilities, finances, programs, or even our vision. The strength we possess is the people on our teams. People are the ones that run with the vision, initiate programs, increase finances, and fill up facilities. However, because our people are so important, they not only are our greatest strength, they have the potential to be our greatest weakness. If they are not equipped properly, or don’t possess the right qualities, the vision will not move forward, programs will not be initiated, finances will fall short, and facilities will become empty.

No matter the size of your organization, here are five things you can’t have on your team.

1 - Poorly tuned ears.

People on your team need to have the capacity to not only listen, but actually hear what you are saying. Team members need to have their ears tuned into not only your words, but your heart. When team members ears are tuned in, they are able to run with the mission, vision, and values of your organization.

2 - Lack of caring.

What you do is so important. You need people around you, who actually care. Care about each other. Care about the people you’re reaching. Care about doing things right. You can teach them process and protocols. You can model persistence and passion. But at some point they have to decide to care.

3 - Backbiting / Gossip.

If you want to ruin your culture … allow gossip and closed door conversations about others. The, “He said, She said” stuff is an absolute cancer that will divide and overpower the vision you have for your organization.

4 - Small thinking.

Small thinking is not, thinking “details and process”. You need those people on your team for sure. Small thinking is … “Thats not how we’ve done it before”. Small thinking is … “We can’t do that”. You need team members that pull the lid off of what can be done, and dream big dreams.

5 - Pettiness - 

“It’s all about me”. “They put the paper clips in the wrong place”. “She corrected me in a way that I did not like”.

When you have pettiness on your team, you will constantly be putting out fires and working sideways rather than moving your organization forward. This is not only negative for your team, it is distracting and harmful for your team member. Pettiness has to go.

If you have any of these things from anyone on your team here are two tips:

1 - Help that person try and overcome the issues they are struggling with. Meet with them. Discuss the issues openly and directly. Give them a chance to change. Be as patient and long-suffering as you can. Part of your job as a leader is to help people improve and grow. This is a great opportunity for you to do that.

2 - If for whatever reason over time they are not able to check these things at the door.  It might be best for your organization and for them, if you help your team member find a new team to play on.

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Launching something new? Here are four steps that will help you succeed.


There is nothing more invigorating than launching a new project, ministry, business, or church. However, According to the Small Business Association 50% of all new businesses fail during the first five years. In the church world, Thom Rainer of Lifeway Publishing states that between 6,000 to 10,000 churches will close their doors in the United States this year.

I don’t have all the answers, that is for sure. However, before you start the process of launching something new, here are four steps that I know you need to take.

1 - Wrestle with the WHY. 

Why are you doing this? Really? What is the motive? What is the win? Why does this need to be done? If your why is not deep in the DNA of who you are, when trouble comes, which it will, you will not have the motivation to push through it.

2 - Clearly define the WHAT. 

What are the three to four thing that will cause the why to come to pass? Narrow the what down to the big rocks of what gets you the win. 

Example: TheCHURCH at Visalia:
WHY do we exist? 
Bring people to Jesus and help them live like Him. 

WHAT do we do to accomplish this?
Gather - on the weekend. 
Grow - in small groups. 
Give - to Gods kingdom. 
Go - serve the world around us. 

3 - Find the right WHO. 

Your why and what will help define who the right person is to be on your team. When looking for the who - look just as long at character and heart as you do skillsets and experience. 

4 - Empower the WHO to run the HOW. 

Let your leaders lead. Give them the why, define the what, and let them get into the trenches and figure out how to accomplish the task. Your job is to train and release them to success. 

Hope this helps:
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