How to speak to teenagers - Part Two: Hear from God on what to speak on.

With all the great speakers and messages floating around on the internet today, it’s very easy to hear a message from Ed Young, Andy Stanley, Matt Chandler, or Francis Chan and just take their stuff, reshuffle it a little bit and call it your own.

Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with listening to other speakers, getting ideas and points for messages.  However, when you stand before a group of teenagers you need to know that you have heard from God on what topic to speak on. 

If listening or reading someone else’s message stirs something up inside of you, that’s great. Don’t be afraid to use that information as a catalyst of creativity and content for what you’re going to say. However, before you get up on stage, make sure that you have taken time to get alone, spend time in prayer and wrestle with the text. 

If you want to make a lasting impact in the lives of your listeners, hear from God not just another great speaker. 

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How to speak to teenagers - Part One: WHAT IS YOUR POINT

Every teenager that gets into their parents car after the youth service is going to hear their parent ask them two very important questions. Did you have fun? What did you learn? 

As Youth Pastors, you need to make sure that students have the right answers to these questions when they get into the car each week. The best way to do that is to have a one strong walk away point in every message. Too many times Youth Pastors have too many topics in one message, too much content for one message, or get off on too many rabbit trails in one message and when this happens the teenagers leave not knowing for sure what they’ve learned. 

Here is something very important to remember when crafting your messages. 

"It is impossible for a student to live out what they’ve learned at Church, if they can’t remember what was said". 

Parents are bringing their teenager to your Youth Ministry every week because they need help in raising their child. Parents want to take their teen to a place that is safe, fun and where they learn something that draws them closer to Jesus and helps them become a better person. Parents want their child to get into the car and be able to spout out exactly what they learned during the service. This will happen if you begin to have one walk away point every week. 

Several years ago I started speaking to teenagers using just one walk away point in every message. In these messages I would say the same thing three different ways. Using props, stories and scriptures to solidify the one single point we where making that night. Very quickly we started getting emails and phone calls from parents saying, “What is Pastor Kevin doing every Wednesday night? My child gets into the car and can tell me every single thing Pastor Kevin said during the message. I love bringing my teenager to this student ministry”.  I have to say, when we first started getting those emails and calls, I started thinking to myself “Dang, I must be one incredible communicator. These kids are remembering all the points of my message”. Then it hit me. “I only have one point! It is pretty easy to remember one point, I guess I’m really not all that incredible”. The truth is, I wasn’t and I still am not an incredible speaker, however, parents have always loved bringing their teenager to our student ministries because their child actually learned something while they were with us. 

If you want to build a bridge to parents, and empower your students to live out what you just taught ... start crafting messages around one walk away point.

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The eight "MUST DO's" of business owners.

1 - Build Smooth Systems

If there is something that you do more than one time, you need to build a system. 

Things work best in systems and programs. Just look at the human body.  Our bodies are full of different systems all of which are working without you or I having to think about them. Our body breaths, pumps blood, divides cells, digests food, all at the same time without us having to work hard to make it happen. 

Each week you and your team strive to complete tasks, sale products, and satisfy the needs of your customers. The only way this takes place is if you set up smooth systems for every area of your business. 

2 - Have 360 degree communication. 

Everything rises and falls on leadership and leadership rises and falls on communication. Communication is a huge key to the success or failure of your business venture. 

You are the one in charge. So that means you are in control of the flow of information in and out of your office. It is your responsibility to make sure that communication easily flows up, down, left and right so that the all the people on your team, and the people your team work with are able to serve the needs of your customers. 

3 - Take a closer look, by asking questions. 

People don’t do what you expect they do what you inspect. 

Asking questions is not micro-managing. Asking questions is good stewardship. 

You take ownership, you lead effectively, by casting good vision, releasing authority, and then following up effectively with the tasks your team has been delegated.  

I read somewhere one time that when you are faithful over the little you will be faithful over much. If you want more influence, more employees, or more money, be faithful with what you already have and you just might get it. 

4 - Pay attention to details.

Its not the big things that will hurt you, its the small details that will kill you.

Here is how you can lead without getting killed by details. 

1. Set a goal. 

2. Establish the steps to completion. 

3. Follow thru until completed. 

4. Repeat steps 1 thru 3. 

5 - Confront Problems Quickly.

One of the worst statements you can ever make as a leader is, “I’ll take care of this problem later”.  I’ve found that if I don’t take care of my problems quickly, my problems quickly take care of me. 

If you want to succeed at anything, you have to become a great problem solver.  

The story of David and Goliath is one of the best problem solving illustrations. 

In the story of David and Goliath we see that David did three things.

1- He acknowledged the problem. 

He saw the 9’ tall problem standing down in the valley. He did not run from it. He did not ignore it. He acknowledged it. 

2 - He looked for the best option on how to solve the problem.

David asked himself, those around him and his authority figures. What should I do?  Should I leave? Should I let someone else fight? If I fight, what am I going to fight with?  He finally came to the conclusion that the best way to handle the problem is for him to fight Goliath and to fight him using a sling shot. 

3 - He handled the problem quickly. 

Once David knew his plan of attack, he ran down the Valley and quickly handled the problem. 

The three things David did are the exact same things you need to do when problems arise:

1 - Acknowledge the Problem.

2 - Look for the best option on how to solve the problem.

3 - Handle the problem the problem quickly. 

You have plenty of confrontation and problems to deal with on a weekly basis.  Because of this, do the best you can, to solve your problems not just quickly, but correctly. 

6 - Have Good Financial Stewardship.

Here are some good questions to ask before spending money.

1- Why do we need this item?

2- Will it help me accomplish my goal?

3- Is there a way to get the same result without spending any money?

4- Have I shopped around for the best price, checking at least different vendors?

5- If I get this item, will it negatively effect other parts of my budget?

7 - Have Strong People Skills.

The greatest asset in every area of your life is people. People work alongside of you. People purchase products. People tell others about their experience.  The more you master the art of connecting with people, the more success you will have. 

Here are six secrets to great people skills

1- Smile 

2 - Look people in the eye.

3 - Seek to hear before being heard.

4 - Ask more questions about them and talk less about yourself. 

5 - Think about how you can serve them, not how they can benefit you. 

6 - Under promise and over deliver. 

8 - Give your heart more than your talent. 

Your talent and $1  will get you a cheap cup of coffee. 

Everyone has talent.  Everyone has a skill set.  Everyone has something they are naturally good at.  But not everyone has heart.  

Your talent and your abilities may have gotten where you are today.  But it will be your character, your integrity, and your hard work that determines where you are in the future. 

If you will take the next six months and lead with your heart, you will go farther than you ever dreamed. 

Considering ministry? You need to see this.

For those considering ministry I want you to see this photo. This is a photo of my office, where I have been for the past three hours working on our upcoming teaching series at TheCHURCH. 

If you notice, the office is not fancy. There is no cool philter on the photo. The computer, notebook, and coffee cup have not been perfectly staged to create a more aesthetically pleasing photograph, in order to give the impression that I am way more cooler than I actually am. 

Nope. Just me in my office. Praying. Reading. Studying. 

This is ministry.

Days filled with study, meetings, prayer times, funerals, and counseling sessions. There really is nothing glamorous about it. 

So before you take the plunge to become a minister. I just wanted you to know that ministry is not as cool, as hipster, or as legendary as some depict on Social Media. However, playing your part in bringing people to Jesus, is an incredible way to spend your life. 

 

Fasting. The one thing that changes everything.

As we start to walk out this journey of 2017, we have to guard our heart against accepting mediocrity. Far too often we settle for mediocre relationships, mediocre finances, and mediocre walk with Jesus. 

Jesus did not die on the cross for us to be mediocre, He died to help us rise above the ashes of the past and be an example of His goodness, grace, and future! 

To start the year off this past weekend we did a message titled “Fasting - the one thing that will change everything”.  Watch this video then continue reading and begin you personal journey of fasting. 

If you would like to break free from mediocrity, we invite you to begin a personal fast. 

What is Fasting?

The word “fast” that is found in the Bible is from a Hebrew word that means "to cover" the mouth”. It is also a form of the Greek word “Nesteuo” which means "to abstain.”

Fasting is a season where you abstain from eating and drinking certain foods and beverages. 

Three reasons you should fast. 

1 - Fasting will break Poverty from your life.

2 - Fasting will bring health and healing to your whole person. 

3 - Fasting will deliver from Sexual Addictions and Demonic Powers.

How do I fast?

Set a goal

Start with a clear goal. Be specific. Why are you fasting? Do you need direction, healing, restoration of marriage or family issues? Are you facing financial difficulties? Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.

Prepare Spiritually

Confess your sins to God. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas of weakness. Forgive all who have offended you and ask forgiveness from those you may have offended 

Mark 11:25 -  And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

Surrender your life fully to Jesus Christ and reject the worldly desires that try to hinder you.

Romans 12:1-2 - Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God, this is your true and proper worship.  Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Fasting for someone else to be delivered will do no good, if you are still caught up in sin!

Decide what to fast

The type of fasting you choose is up to you. You could go on a full fast in which you only drink liquids. You will want to see a Doctor before doing this.In fact we suggest that you always consult your personal physician before fasting any length of time. 

You could do a fast like Daniel, who abstained from sweets and meats, and the only liquid he drank was water. 

You can fast TV, Social Media, or Soda. You can fast almost anything, but just take a season where you bow to God and not the desires of your stomach. 

Remember to replace that time with prayer and Bible study.

Decide how long to fast

You may fast as long as you like. Most can easily fast from one to three days. However, you may feel the grace to go longer, even as much as 21 to 40 days. Use wisdom and pray for guidance. Beginners are advised to start slow.

What to expect when fasting

When you fast your body detoxifies, eliminating toxins from your system. This can cause mild discomfort such as headaches and irritability during withdrawal from caffeine and sugars. And naturally, you will have hunger pains. Limit your activity and exercise moderately. Take time to rest. 

Fasting brings about miraculous results. You are following Jesus’ example when you fast. Spend time listening to praise and worship. Pray as often as you can throughout the day. Get away from the normal distractions as much as possible and keep your heart and mind set on seeking God’s face.

How to end the fast

Don’t overeat when the time comes to end your fast. Begin eating solid food gradually; eat small portions or snacks.

Private Disciplines bring Public Rewards.

In 2017 we invite you to fast privately and let God help you step out of mediocrity and into His blessings.